Note: Today’s post is part of the Write 31 Days challenge. You can find the introduction and links to the posts in this series right here.
Who do you most love spending time with? What lengths do you go to in order to be able to spend time with that person? Before Jon and I were married, I lived almost 40 minutes north of him, but nearly every day, he’d drive up after work to see me. I don’t want to think about the time he spent driving or the cost in gas that it took to come visit, but I loved that he was willing to put in time, effort, and expense to spend time together!
Once we’re married, it’s all too easy to forget to spend time with our spouses. Caring for the kids, keeping house, jobs, and so many other things often derail us from spending quality time with our husbands. And while each of these can be a good thing, they should never prevent us from spending time with the man we married.
So, today’s assignment is to carve out time to spend with your husband. That’s not an easy feat, I realize! As with most things that are worthwhile, it will likely take some effort and adjustment on our part. But I promise, it will be worth it!
Hopefully, we’ll have already laid the groundwork for this by prioritizing him, creating a haven for him, and being available for him. Now, we’re going to put those to use by actually spending time with him.
If you’re not already in the habit of spending quality time with your spouse, this may feel awkward at first. But there are endless ways to enjoy one another’s company. Share with one another about your day. Try cooking together. If you’re both avid readers, why not create a mini reading group with just the two of you? Take turns trying out one another’s hobbies. The more you spend time together, the easier things will get.
It’s important to note that relationships change over the years. Interests fluctuate; more than likely, you’ve added children to the mix; and Lord willing, you’ve both grown spiritually since you first exchanged vows. Your marriage today may look nothing like it did when you were dating or courting.
Even so, you might find it helpful to think back to before you were married. Chances are good that the two of you spent a LOT of time together, just as Jon and I did. What things did you enjoy back then? You may find that you still enjoy those same activities now, though it may be more difficult to arrange to do them.
Spending quality time with your husband doesn’t need to be complex if you don’t want it to be. Just sitting together visiting on the couch is a great start. It’s much better to aim for daily time together in a simple setting rather than only getting out on a date to a fancy restaurant once or twice a year.
What are you going to do this week to spend time with your spouse?