Note: Today’s post is part of the Write 31 Days challenge. You can find the introduction and links to the posts in this series right here.
Have you ever been wrongly accused of something? It sure hurts, doesn’t it? It’s one thing to get miffed when someone else calls you out on your sin, but to be accused of something you’ve not done brings a special kind of misery.
One time, largely due to my miscommunication, a close friend accused Jon of something he had hadn’t done. I felt horrible, and I quickly spoke up to correct the misunderstanding.
Not everyone is going to love our husbands the way we do, and not everyone is going to understand their reasoning for leading our families in the way they do. In those times when our husbands have been misunderstood or their intents have been misconstrued, we can and should come to their defense.
We should speak up for them when needed.
Because Jon wasn’t there to defend himself when my friend wrongly thought ill of him, I spoke up to correct her misunderstanding of the situation. It wasn’t very fun on my part. I hate confrontation, and it takes a lot of wisdom and grace to gently point out the error in someone else’s perception.
Not only should we speak up on our husbands’ behalf when they’ve been misquoted or misunderstood, but we should also speak up in defense of them when other wives are putting down their husbands. I can’t tell you how many conversations I’ve been a part of where wives - even Christian ones - begin belittling or berating their husbands publicly.
Whatever you do, don’t give into the temptation to join in on this mistreatment of husbands. Has your husband done something stupid that would get a good laugh? Probably. But there’s no need to bring that up in front of others. Instead, share about a situation where your husband helped you, made a wise decision, or used good judgment. You’ll probably get your message across quite clearly without saying anything else.
Our husbands are fully capable of defending themselves. But when they’re not around, we should be quick to speak up for them when needed. This is yet another way to wash their feet as Christ would.